am i dramatic for feeling weird about these?

i'm newer to the dating scene tbh (19). these are a few things i've encountered recently while talking/dating people and they've rubbed me the wrong way. i've tried talking to my friends about it but they all agree that im being dramatic. one went as far as to say "you're never gonna find someone if you don't get the stick out of your ass." but i feel like my feelings are valid?? i'm not uptight by any means i just don't wanna feel like i'm being used ig. i've only talked to/dated white ppl. ik i could talk to black ppl as well but the ones in my area aren't really interested in black women. the few that are tend to go for... well not me.