Weight loss and dating

Feeling a little lonely at the moment and keen to start dating again after heartbreak. I’ve lost over 8.5kg since November, but at 81kg, I’m still heavy. Kind friends say I have a pretty face, but I live in the real world and remember all too well the feeling of meeting men off dating apps and seeing the disappointment written all over their faces. I don’t want to lead anyone on, but obviously like all women I only include the most flattering pics. My aim is to lose 4kg a month and feel ready to get back on the apps by summertime. I worry I haven’t done as well this month as have been feeling very stressed and depressed. Instead of the gym I’ve been doing gentle exercises like aqua aerobics and Pilates. But I have mostly been eating low calorie high protein meals. Anyway, I want to be under the 70kg mark when I get back out there. Does anybody have any advice for dating and weight loss? I would love to meet someone but I have such low self esteem and hate my body. When did you know you were ready to date post weight loss?