⚠️Warning⚠️ My vet called during a dental cleaning to say we needed to pull 3 dead teeth that confirmed she’s been abused in the past

Update: My first edit is below but I didn’t think this would blow up. I do want to add when my ex left (3 months before the wedding) it was a process to understand my abuser left me. I won’t go down that rabbit hole but understand this past year has been one thing after another. I am attempting to figure out how to move forward. Calling shelters is too much for me mentally but I’m going to work with so local groups who could help.

For the person who made a nasty comment, my ex-SIL laughed as she told me about the abuse. She even bragged that he only stopped because she made him. She always did that to later claim she was “just joking”. Doesn’t matter what the joke was, her and her family made you accept the joke. She is a master manipulator and suspected narcissist (I have so many stories). Having a vet say “the injury matches the story” was something I can’t describe. It’s like I finally had to accept a LOT. My ex-SIL can’t claim it was just a joke anymore. It was validating but also traumatic. I’ve had so much psychological trauma from him and his family. I feel awful she’s gone through all of this. Madama Sweet Potato looks a little rough. But she is doing better. We did catch a blood issue that we suspect is related to trauma but will update later.

My dog’s first owner was my ex’s sister and then my ex took the dog. I found out years later that either she or her husband had abused the dog. When we took her in, she had so many psychological issues and I had to work with her. I almost considered asking him to rehome her since she wasn’t doing well with my German Shepherd. My GSD was patient and now she (Aussie) is best friends with my dog.

Fast forward to last year. My ex left the Aussie and his 15 yo cat. Both have had a total of $8k in medical neglect. The cat is doing so well and is so much more outgoing. I did discover she has a healed over broken rib but I was never told anything and there are no vet visits associated.

Fast forward to today. The Aussie was getting much needed dental work done. Dental work that’s been horrible for 6+ years (DOCUMENTED by past vets). I had told my vet about the abuse and she confirmed that the 3 front teeth are dead from what looks like repeated kicking or hitting to the face. I feel awful that I didn’t take her to the vet sooner.

I’m currently having a panic attack and have so much guilt. The animals were suffering in my house and he always lied to me. I trusted him and he lied. He lied to save his sister and lied to save whomever else (maybe himself as well). I should have done more. I also want to scream at my ex-FIL for what his kids have done but know I will get called a bitter ex. I am trying to calm down but feel so much guilt.

Has anyone gone through this?

Edit: Sweet Potato (her nickname) is back home. She had to get 4 teeth instead of 3 from the front removed and one in the back. We also found out she has a clotting disorder so we are running more tests. The thing that came from that is a few years back my dog had a giant lump on her neck suddenly appear and go away on its own. My doctor now believes it was a clot from getting hit (she lived with myself, my ex, and his brother). I’ll let yall come to the angry conclusion I came to. We also found out that one of the teeth was causing blood to go into her airways so that’s why she’s had some snoring issues for years. She did good and we did some additional testing on some open sores she’s had since my ex-SIL had her.

I’m a little overwhelmed right now and scheduled a last minute appointment with my therapist. I am going to figure out who I report to because this can’t happen again. Even if they can’t do anything now, at least it’s all documented.