speak up for ur marriage choice

It hurts to know that most people (even from elite families) can't speak upto their parents about their rishta choices cuz they don't wanna hurt their parents feelings ? and even men are part of it ?? like bro, sure... there is a respect factor and u should value their opinion but they're your parents 🤌🏻 they should understand out of all ppl abt that decision... and if they don't understand, respectfully deny and that is ur right but speak up if u like someone.... and ladies... if he can't speak up to his parents about you or he refuses to marry you cuz he don't wanna hurt his parents..., trust me, u dodged a bullet and that man can never stand up for anything...

about women, who are afraid to deny their parents choice... sighssss it's ur goddamn basic right in islam ! speak up !

"but how can we speak up, they r arrogant and can kick us out" ik it's hard but in that case, don't u think it's a v huge price/rent to pay just..... to be not kicked out of ur house ? and sadly, u call it ur house with that ultimatum hanging over ur head ? there r so many good guys who'd wanna marry u and spend a life with u...

I've encountered independent, high earning pretty women and they not denying their parents choices so it doesn't hurt their feelings or they're too scared to make that decision..., like lady 🤌🏻 lady 🤌🏻 crying ? cuz they want u to get married to someone u don't like ? earning that much on ur own ? sighhsss sucha fked un-islamic and cultural dirt filled mindset we live in sadly....