I’m sick of engaging in this fandom

It feels like every other post in this fandom is a literal battlefield. Every week there is a “I hate this ship: the essay” (cough, jegulus, cough) rant. OKAY??? You don’t like a particular ship, welcome to the majority of the fandom, your opinion is NOT controversial. It’s not that I even mind the discussion, but it’s the total hypocrisy and disrespect. We can have intelligent conversations about ships without saying they’re “ruining the fandom” and “it was so better before insert ship came along”. Even so, it only seems a couple sections of this fandom receive this treatment. If a post was made about some other ship with the way some people speak, it would be considered bashing. I hear a lot of people complaining about jily/lily bashing. WHERE? WHO? Does it happen? Yes. Does it happen on the scale that some other ships and characters receive it? Absolutely not.

“But-but the canon!!!” 🤓👆If you like the canon stuff great! I love the canon, super interesting to analyse, it’s what got me into this fandom. But when people complain about something not “making sense” in canon, then you have to apply to the ENTIRE fandom. Dorlene (my loves btw), gone. Not a nary of a mention that they might’ve gone to school together. Wolfstar? Nope, the she-devil herself said so, so thus, not canon. Pretty much every single persons headcanons/really popular fanon? sorry pal, canon said no-no.

I even agree with some of the criticisms I often hear. Personally, I don’t really like fem Sirius, or the babygirlification of the slytherins, when I think their characters are wayy interesting when viewed with more nuance (two fairly common opinions I see being debated on here as well). But does that stop be from engaging respectfully with people who do like those things. Of course not! Keep in mind that a lot of this fandom recently is very young, and probably take a lot of comfort in this stuff. I know I did when I was younger. Instead let’s say “those are some cool characterisations, personally I think this” and “you like that ship and these fics? I personally don’t, I prefer this and that, but you’re entitled to your opinion.” But I guess that I’m asking for too much.

It’s gotten to a point where simply don’t want to interact in the fandoms spaces anymore. Let me live in peace with my dorlene fics and my regulus character studies PLEASE 🙏🙏

Istg if I see ANY arguments in these comments, I’m throwing my phone into the nearest lake and simply accessing ao3 of my Nintendo switch for the rest of my life because that is the definition of irony. Mostly, don’t forget what this fandom is amazing for. We can create unique stories separate from JKR that are queer and diverse, or simply just some good old marauders friendship and jily.

Thank you for coming to my TED talk 🙂‍↕️