This community isn't exactly a save space if attacking and putting a poster down is more important than fully reading their post and trying to understand their viewpoint.
This community doesn’t feel like a safe space when attacking and putting down a poster seems more important than fully reading their post and trying to understand their perspective and what advice, if any, they might be after instead of jumping straight into marking the poster as a horrible person who is fully responsible for their situation. Isn’t it actually the case that AuDHD, cPTSD, socio-economic situation and being a woman in a hyper-capitalist society can have a major part to play in one’s situation?
I recently shared an experience I keep having, hoping to hear how others who’ve faced similar situations have dealt with it and what they’ve discovered about themselves. A few people did try to understand my point of view and showed empathy, for which I’m truly grateful. Thank you—your comments will help me reflect and explore further.
However, the majority of responses turned into attacks, and my explanations were met with downvotes. How can anyone downvote someone’s experiences or their efforts to provide context and clarify? Seeking connection or understanding is not the same as looking for an echo chamber. I wasn’t asking for reinforcement or validation; I wanted to hear how others have navigated similar challenges.
It’s disheartening to see people make assumptions about someone’s reality without actually knowing it. For example, how can anyone confidently suggest taking a lower-paying job without understanding the reasons behind someone’s situation and reasoning? Or criticise someone for having certain standards for potential partners without asking why those standards exist? Personally, I would never expect from others what I’m not willing or able to deliver myself—again, this was clearly stated in my post. Please read posts properly before making judgements.
What struck me most was how unkind people in this community appear to be. I encourage everyone to reflect on whether they might be jumping to conclusions too quickly or making accusations without fully considering the nuances of a situation. Aggression and hostility do not contribute to meaningful discussions or mutual understanding.
(I used ChatGPT to ensure clarity and flow for this post to avoid further misunderstandings. If you struggle to understand what I am trying to get at, I suggest you might like to consult with ChatGPT or similar tools as well)